Family BondingHow to Be a More Loving Parent?


How to Be a More Loving Parent?

Taking care of a child is the most difficult, yet rewarding adventure for a parent because they are our precious children. Seeing how they grow up, and the type of person they will be in the future, all depends on how their family environment was as they grew up. It may not seem like it but a child pays a lot of attention to what is happening around them. And nothing is better than a pair of loving parents for a child’s development.

Do you want to learn how to be a more loving parent? Because a child will grow up with their parents as role models, the actions of the parents are the most important thing for a child. They pick up on certain cues and try to imitate what you are doing. That is why children are a reflection of their parents. If their parents are loving and taking care of them properly, then they also respond in kind. But if they are neglected, the child’s behavior shows.

So today, let’s see how we can be more loving parents to our children.

Parent Responsibility

Parent responsibility

For a child, parents are their world. And to us parents, they are our precious children that we would do anything for. As a parent myself, I know I have a lot of responsibilities for taking care of my children. So let’s discuss some of the responsibilities we hold as parents.

Love and support

Nothing nurtures a child more than loving and supporting them. From infancy to becoming adults, it is our sole responsibility to show them unconditional love and support for whatever they are doing or want to do. This is important because if we parents don’t do that for our children, then no one else would! Therefore, creating a loving and supportive environment should be our biggest responsibility.

Being a good role model

A child is much like a sponge. They absorb everything that happens around try to imitate them. That is why being a good role model should be of the utmost responsibility for a parent. If you do something, your child will definitely copy it. That is why being a good example will mean the child also grows up from a good example.

Taking care of them

All of their basic necessities and care are a parent’s responsibility. From clothing, housing, feeding, and entertainment, all is provided by us the parents. For both you and me, there is nothing that we would want more than to provide a safe environment to grow up in where they have no worries.

Teaching morals and values

Alongside taking care of them, as parents, we are also responsible for teaching them morals and values. How to behave, honesty, respect, compassion, empathy, etc. are all our responsibility to teach. They will obviously learn from their surroundings, so we have to make sure that we create such an environment where they learn the morals and values that will make them grow up as good human beings.

Provide education

A school is a child’s first step into society. This is where they learn their social skills, communication with society, and where they learn about the world on their own. That is why we must be there to provide them with the proper education where they not only learn academics but also learn how to live in a society.

And these are just some. Parenting is a full-time job that has no vacation. There is a lot more responsibility that we as parents have when we take care of our children. It is a very big responsibility to be taking care of a child but nothing is more rewarding than seeing your child grow up happy and loved.

How Can I Be a More Loving Parent?

There is no stress that a parent does not have to endure more than doubting themselves. Am I doing the right job? Is my child happy? Have I loved my child enough? As a parent, I too have gone through the same emotional rollercoaster when I took care of my children. And nothing beats being a loving parent to our children so let’s look at how to be a more loving parent.

Spending time with children

Spending time with children

There is no substitute for you being there for your child. Most parents nowadays leave their children with a mobile device to keep them entertained. But that is not being a loving parent! Through active play, speaking to them, you get to learn about their lives and what they like and dislike. By spending time with your children, you create this bond. And the more time you spend, the deeper the bond becomes.

Unconditional love and affection

Sometimes actions speak louder than words. A simple hug, or telling your children that you love them goes a long way. Children are receptive to love and showing them that love and affection make you a more loving parent. And it has to be unconditional! No matter the situation, you have to make sure that your children know that you love them. That way, they will always know they can rely on you for any troubles they have. Praise for doing something good, or acknowledging that they are trying their best helps lift their spirits.

Open communication

Open communication

Honesty is the policy and being a loving parent means being available to communicate with them. Make sure to let your children know that you are always there to talk, especially when they are young. The younger they are, the more they want to be heard and have someone to talk to. As they grow up, they will be experiencing new things that might confuse them. So make sure that you create an environment where they can approach you whenever.

Taking an interest in their lives

I remember sharing an interest in sports with my father when I was growing up. And that interest has followed me my whole life. It is also important that whatever interests your children, you take part in it with them. Nothing shows how loving you are unlike taking an interest in their life. It makes your bonding more enjoyable and inseparable.

Teach, not punish

Teach not punish

Rules and punishment are forms of discipline. However, not all children respond well to being scolded. They think that they have done something bad but don’t really understand why they are being punished. That is why teaching them, not punishing them, is the way to be a more loving parent. They are also inclined to not repeat a bad behavior or a mistake if they are taught why it is bad to do them. It makes you more loveable as a parent and creates a better understanding between you and your children.

Letting them make mistakes

Being always correct doesn’t make you grow as a person. Having to learn from your mistakes is how you grow up. I know it is scary to think of your children hurting themselves because they made a mistake. But that is a part of growing up! When they fall, it is our job as parents to help them up and move forward. Not only will that make your love stronger, but they will appreciate you for being there for them.

Validating their emotions

Children have very raw emotions and that emotion is something that they cannot express properly. For example, when they are sad, you as a parent should help your children understand their feelings properly so that they are able to express them. A child will appreciate you more if you are there to empathize with and validate their feelings.

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Benefits of a Child Being Loved by Their Parents

Benefits of a child being loved by their parents

Studies have shown that children loved by their parents are more likely to grow up happier and more successful in life. Besides that, let’s look at how a child benefits from being loved by their parents.

Better self-esteem

You want your child to be confident and the love a parent provides them the foundation to be confident in themselves. A confident child grows up to be more active in participation, confident in their abilities, and able to tackle difficult situations. As a parent, nothing makes you feel prouder than seeing your child being independent. That is what the love of a parent does for a child.

Improved mental health

A healthier, love-filled environment has been shown to have a positive impact on the mental health of children. Mental health is one of the areas where development is heavily influenced by parents’ love. So be sure to spend time with your children and actively take part in their lives. The more they feel loved, the better their health will be.

Academic results and clearer goals

We all want our children to achieve the highest grades. But a loving parent would want to just see their children perform to the best of their abilities. It has been seen that children nurtured in a more loving environment produce better academic results. Children who are loved also show that they have clearer goals for the future and actively seek to pursue that path. A parent’s love helps to provide such a foundation for children to express themselves.

Emotional maturity development

The development of emotional maturity is key to a child’s growth into adulthood. A child who is loved and cared for has better emotional maturity than other children. They are able to express their emotions healthily and can understand others’ emotions. This helps them handle difficult situations as they have someone they can trust in their parents.

Of course, these aren’t all the benefits! There are more benefits that a parent’s love gives to a child. Much like how your love can be endless for your child, so too are the benefits.


  1. Are rules and punishments bad for children?
    Rules and punishments help discipline children to correct behavior. But it is better to teach children why they were wrong so they can judge the situation on a personal level and learn from their own mistakes.
  2. What should I do if my child neglects me?
    Sometimes, especially teenagers, need their own space. It is important as a parent that you respect the space and boundaries they have and let them know that you are always available to help them out.
  3. Can I love my child too much?
    Loving your child too much might make them dependent on you. You should definitely love them, but also promote and praise independent behavior.

Final Thoughts

Overall, a child is the most precious thing to a parent. As a parent, I have tried to give my children all the love I had to give when they were growing up and they grew to be fine human beings. A parent’s love definitely influences how a child will grow up to be. Some may not be as fortunate as others, but that doesn’t stop a parent from expressing their love. You might have been worried that you have not been a loving parent to your children. But trust me, a little affection goes a long way.

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Maria W. Corley is a family psychology expert dedicated to helping families thrive. With a passion for improving relationships, Maria shares practical advice on Merge Family. Her goal is to make your family feel closer than ever by addressing communication issues and fostering understanding.

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